The Ultimate Guide to Levelling Up Your Feminine Energy

On the second installment of the Ultimate Guide to Levelling Up, we will be focusing on how to become more feminine. This guide will focus on how to create a more feminine persona and tap into your feminine energy. We will be focusing on how to present yourself in more feminine ways outside of just your outward appearance.

1. Carry Yourself with Confidence: A big part of presenting yourself in a feminine way is to carry yourself with confidence, elegance and grace. Develop better posture and walk with your head held up high. To help with posture, wear a waist trainer or set alarms on your phone to go off every so often to remind you to stand or sit straight. You can also choose to wear heels more often as they force you to have good posture and focus on looking up and around you instead of having your graze down when you are walking. Learn and practice more about good manners and etiquette. You can read my guide on party and dinner etiquette to help. Always say please and thank you, and show respect to others by listening, respecting their boundaries, showing kindness and being polite.  

2. Speak Like a Lady: Speaking like a lady isn't always about having a soft feminine voice, it's about the content of your words. Stay away from curse words. Also, learn to be polite but assert yourself when needed in a feminine way. Do this by being firm but understanding, don't be confrontational, take time to think before you speak, smile and limit contact with people you don't like, and overall speak kindly to and about others.

3. Avoid Masculine Behaviours: In my post on Masculine Behaviours to Stop Now, I detailed 5 masculine behaviours that feminine women should limit or stay away from if they want to embrace more of their feminine side. This includes not asking for help, being overly competitive, often taking the lead in dating and a few more. Click the link to read more on masculine behaviours to stay away from and why. 

4. Spend More Time With Feminine Women: An easy way to develop a more feminine persona is to spend time around other feminine women. Spending time with feminine women will help provide you with examples of elegance and femininity that you can mimic or learn from. Their feminine behaviours will start to rub off on you. The same can be said if you spend a lot of time with non-feminine women. Their masculine behaviours and opinions will negatively influence you. It is also important to spend time with feminine women because femininity is often associated with relationships. So take the time to build a community of women that you can lean on, help and have fun with. Keep in touch with your friends, be there for them, check in on them if they are going through new life stages or life changes, plan fun events like brunch, tennis games, movies, shopping trips or girls trips.

5. Be More Expressive: Don't be afraid to show your emotions. Women often are able to show their emotions more than men so embrace this. If you are happy by happy and don't be afraid to show it. If you're sad, open up to someone you can trust. Be open and don't be afraid to be vulnerable especially with your man. 

6. Stop Being Desperate:  Stop being desperate or feel the need to prove your worth to others, especially men. A lot of times women turn to femininity as a way to attract men. The problem is when this is your only focus, you start to get desperate for a man's attention and it starts to show to everyone around you. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship but being desperate for a man will start to make you do things that are not considered feminine like begging for a date, constantly texting someone who doesn't put any or much effort into talking to you, buying extravagant gifts, lowering your standards and changing your boundaries, especially when it comes to sex.

7. Learn to Receive:  Part of embracing your feminine side is learning to receive. Feminine energy is open to receiving and there are many ways to receive. Ask for help, learn to accept compliments and gracefully accept gifts as starting points to being more open to receiving. 

8. Get in Touch With Your Feminine Sensuality:  Sensuality is focused on physical pleasure when it comes to your 5 senses (touch, taste, smell, sight and hearing). It's not just about sex. To get in touch with your feminine sensuality some things you can do are:

• Dance. You can join a heels dance class or a pole dancing workshop as just some examples. 
• Explore the world of perfumes. Test different scents at a department store or a place like Sephora or Shoppers Drug Mart (if you are in Canada) and have an associate help you sample different scents. Find at least one signature daytime and nighttime scent to start building a collection.
• Wear cute, sexy lingerie underneath your clothing.
• Buy dresses, skirts or tops made of silk or satin fabrics.
• Wear the colour red more often.
• Treat yourself to a nice meal at an upscale restaurant.
• Indulge in a delicious dessert like cheesecake or expensive chocolates.
• Learn a new language
• Explore the world of ASMR