Etiquette Tips for Any Holiday Party

November through New Year's is a time to celebrate. You will often be attending many different holiday parties this time of year. So here are some etiquette tips to help you remain confident and elegant this holiday season.

1. Dress up according to the given dress code. That means that if it's a black tie, semi-formal or business casual event, dress accordingly. If you are not sure of the dress code stick to a nice dress and a pair of heels. It's always best to overdress then show up underdressed. 

2. Bring a gift for the host. Especially if the event is in their home, it is respectful to bring a gift.  Something as simple as a nice bottle of wine or flowers will do.

3. Learn how to have proper table etiquette and manners. Some tips would include:  

• Use utensils on the outside first and work your way inside.  Identify your water glass which is often the one above your knife to the right, and your bread plate is to the left. 
• Wait until everyone is served before eating. 
• Place your napkin on your lap. If you get up to use the restroom place it on your chair, and at the end of the meal, fold your napkin and place it to the left of your place setting. 
• Chew with your mouth closed. 
• Don't rest your elbows on the table. 
• And lastly, keep your phone off the table and in your handbag on silent or vibrate. 

4. Introduce yourself. Mingle and get to know people you haven't met. Standing in a corner by yourself can make you look standoffish or insecure. It might be scary or intimidating to be in a room full of people you don't know, but it's important to get out of your comfort zone if you want to grow. Enjoy yourself and be a respectful guest.

5. Be on time. Especially if it is an intimate gathering, unless some kind of emergency comes up, it's rude to show up late. It tells others you don't respect their time. If you are going to be late, let the host know so they are not confused or waiting for you to begin. Also, don't show up early. The host may not be ready for you yet. Arrive 10-15 minutes around the scheduled time.  

6. Don't over-drink. Have a glass or two and know your limits. No one likes to babysit someone who is drunk and you don't want to embarrass yourself. 

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7. Don't unexpectedly bring a plus one. In other words, don't bring a guest if you were not told you could bring one or let the host know ahead of time. They may not be prepared to host an extra guest and doing so would be rude.

8. Be positive and in a happy mood. When everyone is there to have a good time, no one wants to be around someone who is negative, unhappy or clearly doesn't want to be there. So enjoy yourself. Smile and participate in any activities that might be taking place. 

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9. Keep the conversation light. Don't get heavy into topics like politics or religion. They may make some people uncomfortable or cause conflict with others.

10. Express your gratitude. Whether that is sending a thank you note, email, message or call, let the host know you were grateful to be invited and had a good time. They will be thankful that you enjoyed yourself and happy to know that their hard work paid off.