Friends you Should Avoid As A Feminine Woman

Friends can really have a big impact on the quality of your life. They can bring excitement into an otherwise boring life, they can help improve your mental health, reduce your feelings of loneliness, increase your sense of belonging and purpose, encourage you to make better choices and so much more. This is why choosing the right friends is so important because the opposite can also be true. When you have toxic friendships they can make your life more stressful and bring unnecessary drama that you do not need. When you are on your feminine journey, the importance of having the right kinds of friends is even greater because like the saying goes "birds of a feather, flock together". If you want to be a certain type of person, i.e. more feminine, you need to surround yourself around others who are like that as well. So here is a list of the 9 friends you should avoid. 

1. The Competitive Friend - The competitive friend is the friend who is constantly comparing herself to you. She wants to prettier than you, get more attention from men than you, have a better, higher paying job than you, have a higher and better education than you, live in a nicer home than you, the list goes on. She is constantly trying to one-up you and overall be better than you. This attitude is toxic and can leave you not feeling close to her. Her competitiveness may make you doubt yourself or feel bad about yourself and what you have accomplished. A friend is someone who should be supportive and be happy for you when good things happen to you, not someone who is constantly trying to compete with you.  

2. The Jealous Friend - Like the competitive friend, this friend is always negative and constantly trying to upstage you. They are never happy when good things are happening in your life, they try to keep you down, and give you bad advice on purpose (like bad advice on who you should date and suggest unflattering outfits you should wear) so you'll never level up. They are insecure, and not comfortable with themselves. The jealous friend and the competitive friend can often times be the same person, because the competitive friend's competitiveness, often steams from insecurity and their jealousy of you. 

3. The Gossip Girl - The Gossip Girl is a friend one who loves to talk about everyone and is in everyone's business. Negativity and drama seem to always follow her and if you are not careful her gossiping will wear off on you. You also need to be careful around her because if she gossips with you, she will also gossip about you behind your back with others. 

4. The Negative Nancy - The Negative Nancy is the friend who is always complaining. She complains about work, dating, food, the weather, the list goes on and on. She is never satisfied and sees herself as a victim to everything that happens. She never offers words of encouragement and seems to bring the mood down anytime you are trying to have fun. It's important to avoid this type of friend because their constant negativity and unhappiness will have a negative impact on your own health and view of the world. 

5. The Drama Queen - This is the friend who is extra and dramatic. Her life is like a soap opera. She is likely in a toxic relationship that she always complains about but never wants to leave, or has serious drama with family members or mutual friends of yours. Her outrageous behaviour comes from her need for attention which may be due to low self-esteem or childhood neglect. She needs constant attention and in turn being around her becomes exhausting and draining. During your femininity journey it's important that you protect your energy, so don't waste your energy trying to be her friend. 

6. The Flirty Friend - This is the friend that is constantly flirting with every man she comes into contact with, including yours. Meaning, she simply does not care about or understand boundaries when it comes to your relationship. She also doesn't care about respecting her own relationship and will flirt, talk or hang out with other men in front of, or behind her partner's back, in a way that is disrespect to him. Not only do you need to worry about bring her around your man, but she is also a bad influence on you when it comes to having a healthy, respectful relationship. 

7. The Turn Up Friend - The Turn Up friend is the friend who loves a good time. She loves to party, drink and travel to a different city every week. Honestly, the turn up friend can be a lot of fun and having her around as a friend can be ok, sometimes. The problem is she never stops or slows down. She is irresponsible and you can never take her seriously. She is not someone who is going to encourage you to grow up and do things like start a business, invest and build wealth, date more serious mature men, who have they life together and want a healthy, serious long-term relationship, or any of the other things you are trying to accomplish on your femininity journey. This is because she's stuck in her college party days and will do anything to keep you there with her.

8. The Low Value Friend - The Low Value friend is the friend who may harm your femininity journey. She thinks that women should be low maintenance and have no standards when it comes to man. She doesn't put any effort into her appearance or try to fix any type of bad attitude she may have. Her behaviour and mindset is very masculine. She thinks your femininity journey is foolish and a waste of time. This type of friend doesn't understand why you would want to embrace your femininity, so having her around can deter from your journey.

Comment down below if you have had any of these types of friends or can think of other types of friends can are harmful towards your level up journey!